<h1 style="text-align: center;">Girls Runs The World?!</h1>
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<p> The issue is not that girls run the world, but rather that men don’t know it. Jay doesn’t know it. ’Ye’ don’t know it. I guess it’s ok to live inside of your own fantasy world and pretend you’re the KING. To pretend you’re on top in the public eye, meanwhile you’re getting your ass handed to you behind the scenes in the castle where it counts most. It’s fine if you want to marry into a business, branding, and clan juggernaut formed and lead by women who have a thing against men outside of their place. I get it, but you may want to recognize the Holy Trinity when it’s presented to you; otherwise, it could be a long night.</p>
<p>Yes, this post is about the Solange Knowles elevator assault on Jay Z, but I want to go beyond the attack itself and share some insights that are glaringly obvious to me as someone who is married for close to twenty years, who’s coached countless married couples, personally had and has countless relationships, and who deals with the sexual healing of women.</p>
<p>I know the clip we all watched was only about three minutes in length, but that’s enough, along with other observations, to tell me about eighty-percent of what’s happening in Jay and Bey’s relationship. Let’s start with the not so obvious.</p>
<h3><strong>WOMEN WHO ARE ANGRY AS FUCK (ABWS)</strong></h3>
<p>This isn’t about just Solange, but rather her, Beyonce, and Tina. But wait, Tina wasn’t in the elevator. That’s true, but neither was Mathew, if you get what I’m saying. Where are the men at? Solange is divorced with a child. Tina is divorced, which leaves Jay as the only man in the extended family picture, outside of his brother, if you want to count him, but you can’t because he’s not a part of the inner clan and business juggernaut. If there are other men in the picture, you never see them. All you see or hear about are the Knowles trio – The Holy Trinity. So, that said, I’ll just come straight with it – It’s going to be hard to have a successful marriage when the women around you are all single or have failed marriages AND have serious bitterness and issues with men.</p>
<p>Solange has a failed marriage and you’re telling me she’s not bitter, hurt, or in pain about that? Ok. Solange’s mother and father are divorced over a cheating scandal and you’re telling me she’s not bitter, hurt, or in pain about that? Ok. Mathew’s baby mama is posting homeless pics on the web and everyone’s talking about Bey and Jay and you’re telling me Solange is not bitter, hurt, or in pain about that? Ok. The blogs are posting that Jay is cheating on Bey and that he’s overly dominant and taking advantage of Bey’s meek persona and Solange is not bitter, hurt, or in pain about that? Ok.</p>
<p>I’m speaking as a coach who has, maybe not heard it all, but heard a whole lot and seen a whole lot. If you’re not connecting a physically AND mentally abusive woman to mother and father issues and <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2019/11/25/keep-your-life-separate-from-your-relationship/">personal failed relationships</a> then my advice is never give relationship advice. If you’re not sure these things are connected, let me say the answer is unequivocally YES! They Are. The result? Everywhere she goes, she leaves a worldwide mess. What does Tina have to do with it? How is Tina going to educate, counsel, or nurture Solange if she can’t get her relationships together? She can’t and if she tries, Solange is probably not receptive to what she’s saying. The result? Solange is unchecked in how she functions. She gets to take out her man and daddy issues out on whoever she wants; especially, Jay Z because he’s the closest masculine symbol to all the men she’s pissed at.</p>
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<p>Yes, Solange is taking out her man and father anger out on Jay Z and she’s doing it in the name of ‘protecting’ her sister, which is pure bullshit. Jay and Bey’s relationship is none of her fucking business. She needs to focus on getting her own relationships together instead of interfering in Bey’s. I know many people feel that Solange is justified in ‘protecting’ her sister, but when you have pain over men and your father, you’re not the one to do the protecting. You’re just a loose canon.</p>
<p>A woman attacking any man like that in an elevator is ghetto as fuck unless he’s physically attacking you. It’s low class and lacks taste to say the least. But, no blame. I get it. I know she’s angry and what she’s angry at has nothing to do with Jay. He’s just the trigger.</p>
<p>My counsel to Solange is to come to peace with your upbringing. You’re parents did their best. My counsel is for her to forgive her father and her mother for their perceived relationship transgressions. The truth is they did the best they could with the tools they had. Learn to let it go. Learn to understand that nothing was personal even if it seems perfectly obvious that it was. Most of all, my advice for her is to forgive herself even if she doesn’t blame herself for anything. Forgive yourself for any thoughts, feelings, or perceived transgressions against your mother, father, or ex-husband. Life is still ripe for the picking if you can leave it all behind.</p>
<p>But that brings us to another topic that only married people would recognize…</p>
<h3><strong>THE CRAZY ASS LITTLE SISTER AS PROTECTRESS</strong></h3>
<p>I don’t want people to think this is a unique phenomenon where the little sister who is not as successful as the older sister, takes on the role of protectress of her older sister because it’s not. I’m speaking from experience myself and anyone who’s seen a similar setup can vouch as well – younger sisters can be crazy as fuck. They go into the over protection mode of their sisters thinking they are protecting her when in reality they are just using their older sister’s situation as an excuse to act out their own issues. All the anger, jealousy, perceived lack of attention and accolades they didn’t get being in their older sister’s shadow comes out in the name of ‘protection’. The worst part about it is they actually feel justified in their behavior as if everyone is still living in the house back in grade school days. In reality though, you look like Bey is your girlfriend or lover and you’re jealous that Jay got the ring.</p>
<p>What makes it even worse is (a) either the parents don’t know there’s an issue there or (b) are totally clueless on how to deal with it. Solange acts like an angry child who hasn’t ever been checked or punished or taught how to act. Bey can’t check her. Tina can’t check her. Mathew can’t check her and has lost the right to do so in everyone’s mind. She’s a loose cannon. She’s immature and she’s in some serious pain and need of assistance, but no one is stepping up to the plate as this latest episode has shown us. Hopefully, she takes the advice I suggested above. No shame, no blame – only tough love sister.</p>
<p>To make matters worse, Bey is using her sister like a hitman to deal with her dirty work. I’ve seen older sisters be guilty of this too. I’ve seen other siblings do the same thing. You’ve got that crazy brother or cousin that needs some love and support, but instead of investing in that, you trigger him at just the right time to clean up your mess and handle the shit you don’t want to touch. Bey stood in the elevator like the fucking godfather watching one of his thugs interrogating a spy or some shit. Jay was looking at Bey like, “Et tu Beyonce?!”</p>
<p>Obviously, Beyonce has some serious issues with Jay. The fact she stood there says more than anything else that took place in the elevator that day. On top of that, she is obviously lecturing Jay at the end of the whole thing before they stepped off the elevator. Correct. She was in Jay’s face, not Solange’s face. I didn’t see her say shit to Solange. I mean, she should have just slid her the envelope full of money right there to complete the transaction and payoff. Actually, she needs to slide the body guard some money too because he followed her orders to the T! She was like, “Hold Solange back, but not really. Like, keep her away from Jay, but make sure she can still kick him in the shin and lob some spit balls at him. Cool? I’ll add an extra two grand in there for every double combo she lands.”</p>
<p>The point is, I don’t know what Jay is doing or what’s going on in the relationship, but men need to recognize that you’ll never out do a woman. You’ll never beat her at <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2018/10/05/getting-back-in-the-dating-game-qa-for-single-parents-and-after-divorce/">the relationship game</a>. If you’re fucking her over, she’ll find a way to break even with you, trust me. How do I know? How is this possible? I know because we always attract our equals. Whatever you can do, she can do. Each person in a relationship has equal power – remember that!</p>
<p>My advice to Beyonce is to live your life, as in really live it. You need to honor your husband, but not in lue of your deepest passions and desires. I know you need to find your sexuality. I know you need to find your deepest orgasm. I know you need to pursue a path to inner happiness. Hopefully, you’ll find the courage to do just that, but in the meantime, continue to grow and strive in all areas that make sense to you. Only love.</p>
<h3><strong>THE FALL OF MAN</strong></h3>
<p>It’s a sad state of affairs for men out here nowadays. Both men in the elevator were acting impotent. I know I wasn’t the only one hoping the body guard would have simply taken one more step to his right so that he could actually separate Solange from Jay. He’s holding her like they’re doing a waltz or something. I kept asking myself, is it Jay or Solange that’s worth a half billion dollars because I can’t really tell based on the protection or lack there of. I’m not saying he should have been rougher, but he could have easily created more distance, but that’s just my opinion. I know that was a tough situation, but hey, that’s why you’re hired – for those one or two fucked up situations per year that you need to diffuse.</p>
<p>Now to Jay. I’m not sure if he was high or what, but he looked like someone who was mentally defeated in that elevator. He looked like he was guilty of something and resigned himself to taking an ass whopping. This is what I mean by the fall of man. Jay – what are you doing that you’re not feeling good about and feel that you need to stand there getting abused like that? Where was the fire, even in defending yourself. Where was the fire when Bey, low key, got in your face at the end and seemed to justify what Solange was angry about? I’ve seen men act like that. I’ve seen them <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2020/04/13/cheating-husbands-are-wives-responsible/">get caught cheating</a> and just take a load of bullshit from the women around them, keeping their tail between their legs.</p>
<p>This is not about him doing anything wrong. This is about what appeared to be a lifeless, passionless individual feeling bad about choices he’s made. When you look at the pictures of Jay after he gets off the elevator he even looks like a child who just got scolded.</p>
<p>I don’t know anything concrete about Jay Z and Beyonce’s marriage. I don’t know if Jay is actually cheating like the tabloids are claiming. I don’t know if he’s verbally abusive and overly domineering to Bey as some of the blogs have been saying for years. I really have no idea. Here’s what I do know – he got attacked by TWO women in an elevator. I also know that neither man was effective in quelling those attacks. I also know that he is probably under immense pressure and scrutiny by the Knowles Holy Trinity. I’ve always suspected this, but my suspicions increased after their daughter came into the world. That’s generally when these things get more intense.</p>
<p>I’ll be interested to see how Kayne handles the mental and emotional pressures and abuse that’s sure to come his way from the Kardashian Trinity, lead by the mom of course. I’m already seeing one man in Bruce totally defeated, broken down, out-witted, and completely emasculated. It’s sad to watch. I don’t see any physical attacks on Kayne happening because he’s a Gemini and from the Chi and may literally kill a mf, but it’s rare to see that kind of physical attack on any man by a sibling in law. But I do expect to see some mental and emotional beat downs handed out. Maybe we’ve already seen it with some of Kanye’s in concert out bursts. I don’t know, but the world will be watching as usual. Why? Because whenever you try to keep your relationship life super private in one respect, while flashing and flossing it in people’s faces on the other hand, people will take it upon themselves to dig deeper. People will search and dig until they find the real deal opposed to what you project and flash in front of us.</p>
<p>My advice to Jay would be to get a mentor. Someone who understand the masculine and the feminine. Someone who understands complex family dynamics with controlling women at the helm. My advice is to give Bey some serious freedom of movement and expression. Don’t make her the object of your ego. Don’t make the marriage the justification for your manhood. Also, I suggest getting deeper sexual skills. Learn to touch her and connect with her in ways that she wouldn’t imagine or dream of. Learn to not only be her man and husband, but to be her healer and champion. One love.</p>
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